[Discussion] Was anyone here spanked as a kid?

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nigelhernandez

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How did it affect you and do you think it was effective? Also where in the world do you live (because that determines whether the legality/social opinion of spanking among the citizens)
 
Soulless_Angel

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My husband was *spanked* and for him he realised it was a punishment and he learnt from it
I was spanked often, and it did nothing but put the fear of adults and my mother into me. Its had a life long effect on me, I learnt as a child from being spanked BUT I was still then hit again, I was hit for doing wrong I was hit for doing right, I was spanked in private, I was spanked in public she didn't give a crap

I am in the UK, the law is mixed, the main guidelines are NOT to spank as it's detrimental to a child's emotional development, and I know many believe that spanking a child teaches them only that it's OK to hit others and doesn't teach them anything,

I am in two minds personally, IF all else fails then sometimes the short sharp shock works, but I will be honest and say I have used it sooner then many perfect parents would agree with.
IF a law came into the UK banning it (I think its banned in Scotland) then the next generation is screwed
As, I do think its possible to teach a child the difference of spanking them for bad behaviour, from hitting someone because you want to hurt them just because you don't like them or similar
 
Soul

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... Do you mean literally spanking (a swat or two on the behind) or does being beaten regularly by abusive angry drunks count too?
 
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I was slapped on the arms and legs when I was bad not spanked. I’m from Ireland we don’t really do that here, at least I don’t think so anyway. Then as I got older I started to slap back. It’s a vicious cycle.
 
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goblinsinmyhead

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Yes, and I believe that many children have been and still are.

Well, in my country it is considered normal for a child's guardian to hit him if he misbehaves, which I find very sickly and unnecessary.

When I was little, my father punished me with a broomstick until he bled, or he beat me until I couldn't stand it and scream (which drew other people's attention, but everyone was used to this creation, in short, nobody cared and others thought it right).

What hurt me the most was not my pain or the injuries caused by my father. I was in pain only for him. My father was treated much more cruelly as a child, and I could see the injured child inside him when he hit me.

Oh, I'm from Brazil. Despite having laws against child abuse, these laws do not protect children, the authorities do not care, and many people continue to harm children.
 
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Underscore

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Yes, if I'd misbehaved, but only on the palm. I took it as coming with the territory. It wasn't very painful and over quickly. I just took it defiantly.
 
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I was spanked when I did something wrong. Sometimes by hand, paddle or a switch (which I was instructed to go find a proper one of). My generation, even the teachers did it to ill behaved students. With that said, I was not beaten and punishment was only swiftly given when I done something wrong. It didn't bother me much as I knew it was coming and I knew it was temporary. I also knew that for the most part the intent of that punishment was for my betterment. Overall I was a well behaved kid.

Forgot to add, I am in the US.

Another edit, what is interesting is I have met several women who got a great deal of joy of of being spanked. Each had different reasons for why it was therapeutic for them. Though one wanted it far more extreme than I would ever do to someone.
 
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NoCoast

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I was spanked as a child w hands, belts, shoes, & a hair brush once. I feel like when I was younger it put a fear in me that made me more obedient, which I guess is the purpose, but it also made me a more aggressive person at times. As I got older & the fear was no longer there I was definitely more rebellious/defiant than my younger siblings(who weren’t spanked) so overall I don’t know how effective it actually was. I live in the US.
 
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ssaaahmo

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I was spanked as a child-not often, just when I was disobedient or something like that. It made me afraid of my father even more. I find it hypocritical and hurtful. So you're telling me you can hit my bottom, but if you were to hit my arm or leg then it's an issue? Bullshit.
 
PatheticGirl43

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I was spanked a lot as a child, but it stopped when I started getting older.
I don't have an official diagnosis, but I'm pretty sure I have c-ptsd because of it.
 
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I was and I think at some point I realized that these punishments were pointless. For instance if I broke a lamp, I was yelled out at, but if my mother did it, it was fine..
 
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Disintegration

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I was and I think at some point I realized that these punishments were pointless. For instance if I broke a lamp, I was yelled out at, but if my mother did it, it was fine..
I was spanked routinely as a child. It’s pretty obvious that modeling violent behavior and using fear to correct, what are perceived to be, bad behaviors will only damage kids psychologically. Parents suck, support antinatalism.
 
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I was spanked routinely as a child. It’s pretty obvious that modeling violent behavior and using fear to correct, what are perceived to be, bad behaviors will only damage kids psychologically. Parents suck, support antinatalism.
True,
I don't agree with violent punishments as most of the time they don't really work that well..
 
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RileyTanaka

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I was spanked, sometimes hit with objects like shoe horns, sticks, etc. Whatever my mom could get her hands on when she was in her psychotically angry state. Others here are trying to qualify physical abuse as if there are some that are "not as bad", but it's let's be honest - it's all abuse. Just saying.
 
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beaten bro, its fucked me up to this day. no one loved me as a kid and now i am where i am.

i have a caring gf now though , but i still want to ctb. I missed out on a critical period where i needed to have some sort of emotional warmth, and i didnt get it . so yeah
 
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