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Story How I came to learn about the concept of "selfishness" and later grew as a person

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Recently, I've gotten back into pokemon and it was a trip back to the past, the nostalgia and all. I mainly play the older generations (II-IV, maybe V) and I just recalled a story when I was young and how I learned the and understood the concept of selfishness. Anyways, here is my story.

Back in childhood, during elementary and my preadolescence years, I had a family friend who played pokemon. This was in the early 2000's the beginning of the 21st century. He was also a kid similar to me, albeit a year or two older than me. I was 10 years of age and he was about 12-13 years of age (I'll refer to him as FF). He had pokemon silver as well as pokemon stadium. I was heavily into video games and just daydreamed about pokemon all the time. However, given that my parents were helicopter parents and were restrictive, I never had the chance to play pokemon silver at that time, so I eagerly wanted to play. So 'FF' in this situation refused to allow me to play and I was sad. After it was time to leave, I was bitter and angry that he was mean, not wanting to share, but back then, I never really considered all the circumstances and of course, as a 10 year old (at that time) lacking critical thinking skills, rational line of thinking, and all; mainly acted on instincts and emotions, I was always sad and mad and just oversimplified everything. One such example was when I was thinking philosophically but overly simplistic at said time, "If I can't enjoy life or have fun, then what's the point of living?" Of course, it may be deep for someone who is really young at the time, but again, I lacked coherent thinking, my logic was not sound but rather flawed, and never really questioned or had other perspectives.

It wasn't until I was almost in college that I slowly gained insight, much more self-awareness, and eventually rational thinking to be able to rationalize, parse, and weave through logic in life. That was also my bane as well, due to the fact that I am an Aspie (yes I was officially diagnosed with Aspergers during my teenage years and later in early adulthood), so while I gained insight and had such high IQ, it has cursed me in other areas in life that I wished it wasn't so; namely social life, people interactions, and just day to day life (it's one of my major reasons for wanting to CTB - and I've made numerous other threads on it). When I was in college, I realized I was the selfish little shit because I didn't consider that it was his game, his file (pokemon games only had one file), and whatever I did, even if benevolent, could affect his game in ways that he did not wish for it to be. So since I had that realization, I figured I was in the wrong and he was in the right.

Additionally, another important lesson and it was something I came to learn only after becoming a more serious casual gamer, is that gamers take their files and games seriously, just like musicians with music, artists with art, and athletes with their sports. It is their pride and joy, and even if I only had benevolent intentions, the road to hell is paved with good intentions, so it's better safe than sorry. It would be incredibly selfish and wrong to want something from them that they cherish a lot and want to protect. I also don't want to risk sullying their gem.

Does anyone have any stories of when they first learned about the concept of selfishness and eventually turned around and felt bad about oneself?
 
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I think selfishness is known even from stuff kids say like "I want to eat all that food myself". But selfishness is a broad word and humans are inherently selfish. The best way to think about it, what selfish things are good and what are the bad ones? I think being selfish while not hurting others is fine.
 
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When I was in college, I realized I was the selfish little shit because I didn't
Does anyone have any stories of when they first learned about the concept of selfishness
Thx for a good read man. I am selfish as fuck. The difference between my old college self and now is I can admit it to myself and also I recognize it in others. Nothing wrong with that picture. The only thing that’s wrong is pretending we’re not egoistic bastards looking out for our own interests. Know thy fucking self. Dont have no stories. The awareness grew on me as I got older (ie made mistakes) and saw others do the same.
 
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I think selfishness is known even from stuff kids say like "I want to eat all that food myself". But selfishness is a broad word and humans are inherently selfish. The best way to think about it, what selfish things are good and what are the bad ones? I think being selfish while not hurting others is fine.
Agreed, especially the last part. This is also why I'm really opposed to pro-lifers, because they are being selfish while hurting those who wish to end their suffering (be free of pain).

The difference between my old college self and now is I can admit it to myself and also I recognize it in others. Nothing wrong with that picture. The only thing that’s wrong is pretending we’re not egoistic bastards looking out for our own interests. Know thy fucking self.
Yes, this is a good distinction. People who are at least honest with their position and actions do earn a bit of respect from me. While I may not agree with their actions, honesty is better than hypocrisy.
 
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