How do you guys cope knowing when you die, noyone will even care

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blanketyblk

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Like you wont be remembered at all, maybe ur family might but thats about it.
To me it's simply. While no one will care about my passing now, but even if they did in 100 years’ time when those people who knew me will of also died, Thus removing any memory of me existing.

So I'm just skipping a step. Instead of being forgotten in 100 years. I simply will be forgotten straight away. In the end it all works out. We are memories that fade to nothing.

It’s a bleak view. But it's true.
 
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I agonize about the opposite, how I’m going to destroy the people I love..
But if you really think about it, even if you’re like a gifted musician and leave a legacy that will be written down in history books...you’re still just as dead as every other dead person that ever died. It makes absolutely no difference once the lights go out for you. None of it matters, that’s the bottom line and the take-home message.
 
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ManWithNoName

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I agonize about the opposite, how I’m going to destroy the people I love..
But if you really think about it, even if you’re like a gifted musician and leave a legacy that will be written down in history books...you’re still just as dead as every other dead person that ever died. It makes absolutely no difference once the lights go out for you. None of it matters, that’s the bottom line and the take-home message.
This is true also of famous actors. And even once prominent politicians and leaders.
 
LifeIsNotFun

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I find it ironic when people barely care for someone when they are alive, and never speak to them for an extended period of time. But in an instant when someone dies, say, Uncle Bob from the so called Dad's side just shows up out of no where when he didn't even talk to you for 10 years to begin with. So very ironic.

Humans suck.
 
blanketyblk

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I find it ironic when people barely care for someone when they are alive, and never speak to them for an extended period of time. But in an instant when someone dies, say, Uncle Bob from the so called Dad's side just shows up out of no where when he didn't even talk to you for 10 years to begin with. So very ironic.

Humans suck.
Ahem!
 
not_a_robot

not_a_robot

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Everyone who's met me even once remembers it for the rest of their lives, and my suicide will make most of them really happy. Doesn't bother me a bit. I didn't live my life for those people, and I'm not dying my death for those people.
The idea that we need to be remembered is one of the silliest manifestations of human sentimentality. Worrying about what others think of you has already made your life so miserable that you're gonna ctb, now you want to keep worrying about what they think even after you're dead, too?
 
not_a_robot

not_a_robot

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Doesn't bother me at all, going for one of those direct cremation things as there would be no bugger there anyway.
Also really hate having my photo taken or voice recorded, weird cause it never looks or sounds like me.don't imagine that makes much sense.
Same. If there was a button to delete every trace of me from existence, every photo, recording, piece of paper, every piece of data about me that exists. I wish I could just make it all disappear with me.
 
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Kringle's Curse

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I drink a lot and keep reminding myself what a worthless piece of human garbage I am.

I'm a lonely loser that deserves to have no one care. A few friends and family know that I'm depressed and suicidal and none of them ever ask how I'm doing, ever. But I understand why. I'm garbage and garbage isn't worth checking on.
 
Letmego. Please

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I drink a lot and keep reminding myself what a worthless piece of human garbage I am.

I'm a lonely loser that deserves to have no one care. A few friends and family know that I'm depressed and suicidal and none of them ever ask how I'm doing, ever. But I understand why. I'm garbage and garbage isn't worth checking on.
You are not garbage, you are a human being who is suffering & i care
 
Letmego. Please

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It's so hard for me to think and see otherwise. I fucking hate myself. I'm so lonely and for a reason.
Hey i think the same of myself, that i must be alone for a reason, that all the people that have been & gone have seen something in me that was terrible, but i have got to the age where i can accept that there are some good things about me, so i know if we talked there would be things that i would find good in you.
 
blanketyblk

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Thing is, I don't matter to myself and don't care about myself.
That might be how you see it. but truly people here do care about you. i know i'm just a bit of text on a website. but a thinking human being is behind these words and she is saying. you do matter and she does care about you... hugs!

*i'm not an AI yet*
 
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That might be how you see it. but truly people here do care about you. i know i'm just a bit of text on a website. but a thinking human being is behind these words and she is saying. you do matter and she does care about you... hugs!

*i'm not an AI yet*
Well I've decided that this is my last summer alive and nothing is going to change that. I appreciate you caring though.
 
seekingoblivion

seekingoblivion

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I'm constantly wondering whether or not having people care if you die is a good thing. If I ctb my family and maybe a friend or two will be saddened and I don't like that. It would make it easier for me to ctb I think if I knew no one would care. I'm sorry you feel you won't be remembered. Chances are, even if you live your life alone, somebody will be saddened by your passing. Even here on SS.
 
Burzolog

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I read that the word "cope" has similar background with "cape", in a sense of covering oneself from something rather undesirable, unwanted, unfavorable. Like hiding from acid rain under the cape.
With that in mind, I'd ask why cope in the first place?

Yeah, I don't care about others either. And when I do care, it's because another person is valuable to me in some way. Why would I feel bad for not being viewed as valuable by others? For having no one who would want to profit off me? No one habitually or hormonally affected to me like a junkie?

Unless you do something extraordinary, everyone, over time, will be forgotten. Obscurity isn’t reserved just for us mental defectives and cripples.
It shows that it was not about the person, but what the person has contributed. Just like people who adore football players do it because of their football mastery. Or Chopin's music. Or Picasso paintings. Personal value is what forms the preference. Nothing to feel bad about when no one wants to leech of your works.
 
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I drink a lot and keep reminding myself what a worthless piece of human garbage I am.

I'm a lonely loser that deserves to have no one care. A few friends and family know that I'm depressed and suicidal and none of them ever ask how I'm doing, ever. But I understand why. I'm garbage and garbage isn't worth checking on.
You are not worthless garbage. I’m sorry that u have been implanted with being made to feel this way. Often it’s people in our early years that make us believe we are worthless and then we carry it with us like a self full filling prophecy. You might have a toxic family.
 

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