How did you tell your parents?

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Kamiotesoro

Kamiotesoro

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Apr 27, 2020
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Soo I've already set a date and a method quite some time ago and I'm not planning on backing out of it just yet, however recently I got an extremely severe teak due to which my sleeping has gone down from 4 hours to 2-1 hours a night and since I wanted to live the rest of the time in great comfort I decided to tell my father about everything so I could get some sleeping pills or muscle relaxants and maybe try therapy out since I've been battling depression for almost a decade at this point. During the talk my sibling was present (they know about my suicidal ideation, but not the plan and about my depression) and I was just trying to explain what I've been going through in order to idk maybe seek companionship (ik I'm dumb). This went south pretty fast resulting in my parent saying that I'm just too lazy that's why I have trouble sleeping and now I'm being sent to live the rest of my days working 24/7 on a ranch without pay :pfff: :pfff:
My question: What did you tell your parents and how did they react?
 
deadpixels

deadpixels

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May 2, 2020
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Most of the time, telling others about this kind of problem doesn't go very well. People will always interpret it in another way, projecting their views and emotions on us. Very few people can understand the pain in others, even in this forum, where we all know what hell looks like, we don't understand each other very well.
 
GoBack

GoBack

Elementalist
Apr 25, 2020
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Are you serious about the ranch? That sounds fucking brilliant. I don't know about you but from working on a farm in the past that work will knock you clean out
 
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BPD Barbie

BPD Barbie

I'm a BPD Barbie Girl living in a suicidal world
Dec 1, 2019
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Most of the time, telling others about this kind of problem doesn't go very well. People will always interpret it in another way, projecting their views and emotions on us. Very few people can understand the pain in others, even in this forum, where we all know what hell looks like, we don't understand each other very well.
Yeah, basically this was my experience. I tried putting into really blunt terms, like if I was an animal and I was seen to be suffering, I'd be put down without question as it would be the humane thing to do, but as a human I'm just expected to suffer. While my mom got this, she still just kept saying she needed me etc and wasn't supportive of the idea. But then again, I didn't expect her to be, I don't expect anyone to be if I'm honest. I know this path is going to cause friction.
 
Kamiotesoro

Kamiotesoro

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Apr 27, 2020
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Are you serious about the ranch? That sounds fucking brilliant. I don't know about you but from working on a farm in the past that work will knock you clean out
Actually yes :pfff: I wish I was joking
 
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Weightoftheworld

Weightoftheworld

Let me burn.
Apr 19, 2020
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My parents found out I was on antidepressants when I was hospitalized for another issue. Other than that, they don’t know and will not know the extent of my issues until I CTB.
 
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Ardesevent

Ardesevent

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Feb 2, 2020
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I broke into my dad’s gunsafe when I was 14, but accidentally fired the gun into the ceiling instead of my skull because I was too dumb to research kickback. Thankfully, it didn’t go through the roof or anything. My dad found out that way, but he didn’t really care. He just told me he’d be sad if I died, and didn’t bring up the issue again.
 
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Adamsnolife

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May 5, 2020
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I would never say anything about attempting suicide to my parents . I wouldn't be able to ctb at all then
 
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MarsFx

MarsFx

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May 7, 2020
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I called my dad from my therapist's office at the time because she was having me committed. None had any idea I'd wanted to, and all had basically ignored any information I offered about my mental health.
My best friend learned of it then too, he's the only reason I sometimes consider a more painful but less obvious way to ctb
 
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Bct

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Apr 20, 2020
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Not in a chance I would tell my family (especially parents) about my depression since I'm not getting along with them. They'll just know about it when I die.
 
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Alyatl

Alyatl

borderline and buyin time
Apr 15, 2020
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My mom came with me for a blood test at a clinic and I was forced to take off my coat to reveal the horrible state of my arms and the physician ripped into her asking her how the hell she wasn’t aware of my mental state. Then he asked if I had a plan and I’m like, “... yeah?”. Sectioned that day, parents finally realized how bad I was doing.
 
tiredofsuffering

tiredofsuffering

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Apr 4, 2020
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I said I was sorry when I tried to OD on pills. If I stayed quiet, I would've just sleep it away and be able to ctb without anyone on my tail. Now I can't keep my room's door closed and I'm always being checked on. That also would have the doctors far away from me. But nah, I had to open my big mouth.
 
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HorribleFeelings1

HorribleFeelings1

Its a hard knock life
Jan 18, 2020
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Soo I've already set a date and a method quite some time ago and I'm not planning on backing out of it just yet, however recently I got an extremely severe teak due to which my sleeping has gone down from 4 hours to 2-1 hours a night and since I wanted to live the rest of the time in great comfort I decided to tell my father about everything so I could get some sleeping pills or muscle relaxants and maybe try therapy out since I've been battling depression for almost a decade at this point. During the talk my sibling was present (they know about my suicidal ideation, but not the plan and about my depression) and I was just trying to explain what I've been going through in order to idk maybe seek companionship (ik I'm dumb). This went south pretty fast resulting in my parent saying that I'm just too lazy that's why I have trouble sleeping and now I'm being sent to live the rest of my days working 24/7 on a ranch without pay :pfff: :pfff:
My question: What did you tell your parents and how did they react?
I never told my parents or anyone because of my past but if I told anyone regardless, the first thing that pops up in their head is “oh no I need to tell someone” and I end up with the popo. Never again saying a single word and even faking my happiness.
 
jrums

jrums

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Apr 14, 2019
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Yeah, basically this was my experience. I tried putting into really blunt terms, like if I was an animal and I was seen to be suffering, I'd be put down without question as it would be the humane thing to do, but as a human I'm just expected to suffer. While my mom got this, she still just kept saying she needed me etc and wasn't supportive of the idea. But then again, I didn't expect her to be, I don't expect anyone to be if I'm honest. I know this path is going to cause friction.
Same exact experience. SSRIs have caused me horrible permanent brain and body damage and while my mom may get it she just cries and says she needs me. All emotion. My dad will be upset too but he is more rational. He knows that there is no cure and doesn't want to see me suffer.