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everydayiloveyou

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Lately I've been having the feeling that I'm going to be fired soon. My bosses have been acting weird over things I've been doing the same way every day for the past 3 years, and a bunch of new people are getting trained for my position. It's been really stressful to deal with the uncertainty. Plus my 21st birthday is in a few weeks, so I'm extra sad about it.

I'm scared that they're gonna frame me for stealing or something else similarly bad in order to get rid of me, since we're a unionized store so it's harder to fire us in the typical at-will style. I can't sleep, and lately I've started tearing up during my shift since I'm so worried. I've even looked up lawyers in case they arrest me for some kind of stealing I didnt know I was doing, which I know is definitely a crazy overreaction.

On one hand, the whole situation is making my desire to ctb even stronger, since being fired will affirm all of my negative thoughts and negate all of the progress I've made since I got a job. But on the other hand, I know that realistically, getting fired from a retail job isn't really a big deal, even if I do get framed for something bad. I'm still young and in school, I still have options, and people who are worse off than me manage to get jobs again. And there's also the possibility that I'm just being super crazy and I'm just hearing things and stuff. So I'm trying to be prepared for the worst but hoping for the best, as they say.

Have you guys ever been fired? How did you deal with it? If you've worked for a couple of years at the same job, did you know that it was coming? Did you prepare yourself? etc. I want to hear general advice from fellow mentally ill people I guess lol, I feel super alone in this rn
 
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Yes I was, depression and panic attacks were preventing me to go to work, so I would not show up for a few times. After too many of those without a Doctor letter I was sent home for good. They can’t fire you for stealing if you’re not stealing nor they got any evidence of that.
 
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AvaAdore

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Only one time, I was a waitress at a sushi restaurant for one night and the owner said I wasn't fast enough. If you get fired you should file for unemployment.
 
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Lately I've been having the feeling that I'm going to be fired soon. My bosses have been acting weird over things I've been doing the same way every day for the past 3 years, and a bunch of new people are getting trained for my position. It's been really stressful to deal with the uncertainty. Plus my 21st birthday is in a few weeks, so I'm extra sad about it.

I'm scared that they're gonna frame me for stealing or something else similarly bad in order to get rid of me, since we're a unionized store so it's harder to fire us in the typical at-will style. I can't sleep, and lately I've started tearing up during my shift since I'm so worried. I've even looked up lawyers in case they arrest me for some kind of stealing I didnt know I was doing, which I know is definitely a crazy overreaction.

On one hand, the whole situation is making my desire to ctb even stronger, since being fired will affirm all of my negative thoughts and negate all of the progress I've made since I got a job. But on the other hand, I know that realistically, getting fired from a retail job isn't really a big deal, even if I do get framed for something bad. I'm still young and in school, I still have options, and people who are worse off than me manage to get jobs again. And there's also the possibility that I'm just being super crazy and I'm just hearing things and stuff. So I'm trying to be prepared for the worst but hoping for the best, as they say.

Have you guys ever been fired? How did you deal with it? If you've worked for a couple of years at the same job, did you know that it was coming? Did you prepare yourself? etc. I want to hear general advice from fellow mentally ill people I guess lol, I feel super alone in this rn
No, never been fired.
But I've resigned or simply walked out of 3!

(No, not in anticipation of being fired)
 
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I'm in a similar situation as you, but I have been given a two weeks notice that a contract that they are cancelling work contract. I have never been given any warnings whatsoever.
 
Chupacabra 44

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I've worked in some HR capacities before, but I'm in no way a proper HR professional, by any means.

I'm going to rapid fire type while wearing my quasi attorney hat.....I will rapid fire questions as these pop into my mind. I can assist you to hopefully alleviate some fears perhaps, if you want to answer the think about the following (don't mistake my tone - I'm on your side and am trying to help).

Have you been documented by your company?

Has your boss or others sat down to review your behavior recently? If so, who attended (job titles)? Did they take notes?

Is an employee potentially alleging theft on your part? What is their position within the company?

Does your store have cameras? How many and where are these aimed?

Why exactly do you suspect this is happening to you - just cause they are acting weird to you and nothing else? Have your friends at work noticed too? What did they say?

Could your boss be acting weird because he feels stressed himself/herself and is afraid they might lose their job?

How do you know these people being trained are being trained for your job? Could they be additional staff? If you have multiple locations maybe they are being trained for a different store?

Do you have an employee handbook? What does it say about employee theft? Most companies would fire anyone immediately suspected of theft, if their ducks are all in a row ( meaning if they have credible evidence from information from another employee or if they have video footage), then typically they confront you immediately, IMO. Any potential theif in a retail environment is a huge threat, because of one's ability to steal merchandise fairly easily.

You can just read my questions as most are kind of Rhetorical and I'm just trying to illustrate the process; or you can answer some or all for me and I will keep suggesting stuff.

Have you ever received a written warning? How many, how long ago and what did these say - in general?

Does your company have a reputation of treating it's employees poorly?

Most reputable companies are not going to Trump up fabricated stories to get rid of someone.

Would the new employee be making signicant less money per hour then you? How much less?

Did you call your union rep for help?

Here is what I recommend immediately. After your shift, date and time in a journal at your home. Note with detail exactly what felt weird to you. Make good notes.

The problem with being so anxious in a retail environment is it will impact your performance to some extent. Your "auroa" will darker. I suggest you meditate each night to try and find peace, so your energy will feel better at work.

Don't make the fear of being fired the reason for being fired!

If HR or your boss calls you into a meeting write down the conversation in great detail.

If you are in the states google "legal aid" in your city and call them to see if they can give you free legal advise.

It sucks when you're stressed at work. But, if you have never stolen I would guess with near certainty that stuff won't be made up with out some perceived evidence on their end, IMO, unless you are potentially working in small mom and pop company, IMO. But, you're unionized.

Keep us posted.

Good luck, in case you don't type answers. My questions were mostly for you to think about stuff to help alleviate fear.
 
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With the exception of one job at a pub, I think I’ve been fired from every place I’ve every worked. I’m quite unorganised and often oversleep so it’s usually understandable why employers yeet me out of their business
 
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Hi! I am 64 years young and i have been fired about 5 or 6 times, can not remember for sure. I have severe depression, border line personality disorder and panic attacks. I have always tried to do %100 my best in a position, have NEVER stoled, drank did drugs..etc..on the job. Now with that said %100 of my times that I got fired was becasue of office politics. Most of the time i became friends with someone or more and kept in contac afterwards. That helped me alot. Sometimes they would also tell me that the person that either fired me or got me fired was him/herself let go. What comes around goes around!! Also those friends would help me network and find a new position. Now one also might want to keep in mind that a company, large or small, does NOT want bad press or a bad reputation, so doing anything like trying to frame a employee would be bad news for them. I cope with a firing by keeping faith that most humans are nice and caring. For those that are not it , at least in my cases, seem to find out the hard way that being a jerk does not pay. You sound like a very smart, caring person, who cares about others and you will do just GREAT! As you go through life and the more experience that you pick up, you might find that you will always be in demand , as far as employers go, and with some savings built up to help between positions, you will be on game and at the top! I care for you and I know you will do GREAT things in life!!!! Love and peace to you my great sanctioned suicide global family member!
 
Chupacabra 44

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Hi! I am 64 years young and i have been fired about 5 or 6 times, can not remember for sure. I have severe depression, border line personality disorder and panic attacks. I have always tried to do %100 my best in a position, have NEVER stoled, drank did drugs..etc..on the job. Now with that said %100 of my times that I got fired was becasue of office politics. Most of the time i became friends with someone or more and kept in contac afterwards. That helped me alot. Sometimes they would also tell me that the person that either fired me or got me fired was him/herself let go. What comes around goes around!! Also those friends would help me network and find a new position. Now one also might want to keep in mind that a company, large or small, does NOT want bad press or a bad reputation, so doing anything like trying to frame a employee would be bad news for them. I cope with a firing by keeping faith that most humans are nice and caring. For those that are not it , at least in my cases, seem to find out the hard way that being a jerk does not pay. You sound like a very smart, caring person, who cares about others and you will do just GREAT! As you go through life and the more experience that you pick up, you might find that you will always be in demand , as far as employers go, and with some savings built up to help between positions, you will be on game and at the top! I care for you and I know you will do GREAT things in life!!!! Love and peace to you my great sanctioned suicide global family member!

Office politics are the worst part of working, IMO. I always struggled to keep my head above water with this aspect. Never good at doing it for long and always "ended up drowning" in the end.

Thanks for your candid reply.
 
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Yes I was fired by my own auntie for throwing up in a bin
 
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I've worked in some HR capacities before, but I'm in no way a proper HR professional, by any means.

I'm going to rapid fire type while wearing my quasi attorney hat.....I will rapid fire questions as these pop into my mind. I can assist you to hopefully alleviate some fears perhaps, if you want to answer the think about the following (don't mistake my tone - I'm on your side and am trying to help).

Have you been documented by your company?

Has your boss or others sat down to review your behavior recently? If so, who attended (job titles)? Did they take notes?

Is an employee potentially alleging theft on your part? What is their position within the company?

Does your store have cameras? How many and where are these aimed?

Why exactly do you suspect this is happening to you - just cause they are acting weird to you and nothing else? Have your friends at work noticed too? What did they say?

Could your boss be acting weird because he feels stressed himself/herself and is afraid they might lose their job?

How do you know these people being trained are being trained for your job? Could they be additional staff? If you have multiple locations maybe they are being trained for a different store?

Do you have an employee handbook? What does it say about employee theft? Most companies would fire anyone immediately suspected of theft, if their ducks are all in a row ( meaning if they have credible evidence from information from another employee or if they have video footage), then typically they confront you immediately, IMO. Any potential theif in a retail environment is a huge threat, because of one's ability to steal merchandise fairly easily.

You can just read my questions as most are kind of Rhetorical and I'm just trying to illustrate the process; or you can answer some or all for me and I will keep suggesting stuff.

Have you ever received a written warning? How many, how long ago and what did these say - in general?

Does your company have a reputation of treating it's employees poorly?

Most reputable companies are not going to Trump up fabricated stories to get rid of someone.

Would the new employee be making signicant less money per hour then you? How much less?

Did you call your union rep for help?

Here is what I recommend immediately. After your shift, date and time in a journal at your home. Note with detail exactly what felt weird to you. Make good notes.

The problem with being so anxious in a retail environment is it will impact your performance to some extent. Your "auroa" will darker. I suggest you meditate each night to try and find peace, so your energy will feel better at work.

Don't make the fear of being fired the reason for being fired!

If HR or your boss calls you into a meeting write down the conversation in great detail.

If you are in the states google "legal aid" in your city and call them to see if they can give you free legal advise.

It sucks when you're stressed at work. But, if you have never stolen I would guess with near certainty that stuff won't be made up with out some perceived evidence on their end, IMO, unless you are potentially working in small mom and pop company, IMO. But, you're unionized.

Keep us posted.

Good luck, in case you don't type answers. My questions were mostly for you to think about stuff to help alleviate fear.
The reason this all started was because I was training one of the cashiers for my position at the service desk. She had been put there randomly and was telling another coworker (a manager whos in charge of me but cant fire me or anything, all of us make 25 cents above min wage) how weird that was. She asked him why she was being trained, and he said, "it's good to have people trained for the service desk. I know the real reason why theyre training you, but it's none of my business" and he glanced at me. She asked him to text her about it later, and he left. Later another one of the managers came over and asked me how I've been opening a certain door, because I had broken the key to it a couple months ago. A careless mistake I know, but when I broke it, I told the manager (none-of-my-business guy) and another service desk coworker. The service desk coworker said it wasnt a big deal in the end, because we had a backup key. Me and that service desk coworker have used the backup key to access that door for a while now, but I guess the other service desk/manager people were unaware of this until recently? I was never talked to formally about this though. I had written a note and taped the key to it when I broke it just in case it'd be an issue. In fact, the manager who asked me about the key was telling the girl I was training how it was funny that I did all that.

The other day I did get a paper to sign because I accidentally typed in a money order as a lottery sale. When we make mistakes like this, or forget to save receipts, we always sign a copy of the mistake, but I got really nervous that maybe theyre gathering evidence against me. This was a typing error, the codes are a digit apart, but I know I shouldn't be making mistakes like that. But what made me especially nervous about stealing was that we recently had someone get busted for faking bar codes or something for years. In another store, a service desk worker was busted for stealing goods that we keep locked behind every service desk. I don't steal things, I feel confident proving that since we have cameras everywhere. But I was really afraid that my careless errors, like mistyping codes, would be interpreted as malicious.

I don't have any friends at work. I don't talk to anyone unless I really need help, or to ask for something to do. Or if Im helping customers of course! I rarely am late, call out only for super emergencies, and have no-call/no-showed only three times in 3 years, and still those were because I slept in. I ended up rushing to work each time. I got written up twice in my entire time of working here. Once for misstyping a coupon, and again for accidentally doing a price match (I misread a training sheet about it and thought it could apply to any item). These happened more than 1 year ago, each about 6 months apart. So I don't think I'm a huge problem employee. But, no one would stand up for me if something happened, I don't have anyone besides my parents, who are broke and have no connections in this country. So for some reason, I figured that these people who must be really sick of dealing with me after so many years must want to get rid of me in this kinda way, because they know they have the upper hand.

I guess its more reasonable that they will finally remove me because of my shyness, which is fair and reasonable I guess. But that would suck too of course, and even that possibility gets me super stressed. But thanks to your post, I can see how I was being unreasonably paranoid at some points. My parents have told me before that if I was gonna be fired for my issues then it would've happened by now, but with the union, people pretty much only get fired if they steal. Idk the specifics though haha, our employee handbook says nothing about this sorta thing.

Thanks so much for the clarifications, I can rest much easier now! And if anything does happen, at least I can prepare myself. Seriously thank you!
 
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Yes, my first job at a start-up company. I was 18 and I joined when it was very small. I took on a few different responsibilities, and learned a lot of things on the job.

As the company expanded they hired experienced professionals who could do what I was doing but better. So I wasn’t needed at that point.

They let me go and I went home crying lmao. But my boss did say he looked forward to working with me again one day, so I’m assuming I could apply for a job there again with a good chance.

It was great experience, and it was nice to see the company grow from a small startup to a fairly big company.

But I already have part time work that I enjoy that fits well with my studies. Depression and my suicidal ideation has gotten in the way a few times but I still have the job, though I thought I’d lose it.

I get really anxious when I have to deal with the admin side and emails.
 
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The reason this all started was because I was training one of the cashiers for my position at the service desk. She had been put there randomly and was telling another coworker (a manager whos in charge of me but cant fire me or anything, all of us make 25 cents above min wage) how weird that was. She asked him why she was being trained, and he said, "it's good to have people trained for the service desk. I know the real reason why theyre training you, but it's none of my business" and he glanced at me. She asked him to text her about it later, and he left. Later another one of the managers came over and asked me how I've been opening a certain door, because I had broken the key to it a couple months ago. A careless mistake I know, but when I broke it, I told the manager (none-of-my-business guy) and another service desk coworker. The service desk coworker said it wasnt a big deal in the end, because we had a backup key. Me and that service desk coworker have used the backup key to access that door for a while now, but I guess the other service desk/manager people were unaware of this until recently? I was never talked to formally about this though. I had written a note and taped the key to it when I broke it just in case it'd be an issue. In fact, the manager who asked me about the key was telling the girl I was training how it was funny that I did all that.

The other day I did get a paper to sign because I accidentally typed in a money order as a lottery sale. When we make mistakes like this, or forget to save receipts, we always sign a copy of the mistake, but I got really nervous that maybe theyre gathering evidence against me. This was a typing error, the codes are a digit apart, but I know I shouldn't be making mistakes like that. But what made me especially nervous about stealing was that we recently had someone get busted for faking bar codes or something for years. In another store, a service desk worker was busted for stealing goods that we keep locked behind every service desk. I don't steal things, I feel confident proving that since we have cameras everywhere. But I was really afraid that my careless errors, like mistyping codes, would be interpreted as malicious.

I don't have any friends at work. I don't talk to anyone unless I really need help, or to ask for something to do. Or if Im helping customers of course! I rarely am late, call out only for super emergencies, and have no-call/no-showed only three times in 3 years, and still those were because I slept in. I ended up rushing to work each time. I got written up twice in my entire time of working here. Once for misstyping a coupon, and again for accidentally doing a price match (I misread a training sheet about it and thought it could apply to any item). These happened more than 1 year ago, each about 6 months apart. So I don't think I'm a huge problem employee. But, no one would stand up for me if something happened, I don't have anyone besides my parents, who are broke and have no connections in this country. So for some reason, I figured that these people who must be really sick of dealing with me after so many years must want to get rid of me in this kinda way, because they know they have the upper hand.

I guess its more reasonable that they will finally remove me because of my shyness, which is fair and reasonable I guess. But that would suck too of course, and even that possibility gets me super stressed. But thanks to your post, I can see how I was being unreasonably paranoid at some points. My parents have told me before that if I was gonna be fired for my issues then it would've happened by now, but with the union, people pretty much only get fired if they steal. Idk the specifics though haha, our employee handbook says nothing about this sorta thing.

Thanks so much for the clarifications, I can rest much easier now! And if anything does happen, at least I can prepare myself. Seriously thank you!

Thanks for the detailed response it helps on my end.

My reaction is this does not sound like a very enjoyable work environment. The people there sound overly anal retentive about a stupid key. SMH

I could tell that you're very conscientious and that is an extremely valuable asset to possess as an employee.

I think it's wise that you have counsel from your parents. There are certain things in life that one can't buy and that includes wisdom that comes from experience.

Since you know your parents have your best interest at heart, I would trust their judgment. Plus, they know your personality and will adjust their recommendations based on how well they know you and how well you tend to interpret your surroundings. They have observed these behaviors in you since the day you were born.

However, with that said you have to trust your instincts in part as well.

What I recommend doing is asking your parents if they recommend for you to send out some more resumes and some more applications just in case something happens with your current job. That way no matter what you'll feel empowered if you have other companies offering you employment positions. When this happens you're negotiating from a position of strength vs a position of weakness so you have much less to lose and much less fear with your current employer.

Someone recently listed the movie Office Space as one of their top four movies of all time. This movie somewhat indirectly showcases working as an employee from a position of power. Recommend you watch it.

Good luck and keep us posted!
Yes, my first job at a start-up company. I was 18 and I joined when it was very small. I took on a few different responsibilities, and learned a lot of things on the job.

As the company expanded they hired experienced professionals who could do what I was doing but better. So I wasn’t needed at that point.

They let me go and I went home crying lmao. But my boss did say he looked forward to working with me again one day, so I’m assuming I could apply for a job there again with a good chance.

It was great experience, and it was nice to see the company grow from a small startup to a fairly big company.

But I already have part time work that I enjoy that fits well with my studies. Depression and my suicidal ideation has gotten in the way a few times but I still have the job, though I thought I’d lose it.

I get really anxious when I have to deal with the admin side and emails.

Helping to grow a startup business into a big company is an extremely valuable experience. This should make you more marketable in the future.

I hear you with the emails. Being bombarded non-stop with emails completely ruined my attention span, while I was functioning as a controller within one company in my past employment. The reporting hierarchy was so messed up in this company that I reported to each of the three owners. While one owner was emailing me to jump, another owner was emailing me to sit down, while the last owner was emailing me telling me to roll over and play dead. Lol

Stuff like that just eats me alive.
 
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My mental health due to burnout and a nervous breakdown & manic episodes...& my so called “bestfriend” is the reason I got fired. it’s pushed me to my breaking point. I helped Her get this job & she ruined mine. 4 years of my life wasted. I really want to kill her but I’ve decided to do it to myself
 

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