[Discussion] Do you want a funeral?

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UpandDownPrincess

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I do, but it will not attract many people.

I hope people will show up to support my husband. He will need support - I am the first person in his life who has supported and loved him unconditionally.

I have few friends. Even fewer who would drop everything to mourn me.

I've lost many friends through the years as a result of my erratic and sometimes frightening moods, largely a produce of my bipolar disorder and my screwed up childhood.

It would be lovely if someone could find something nice to say about me.
 
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Ive been fine with the idea of my body being left on whatever battlefield I fall on, so I’m not picky if one happens or not. I’m not going to be around to experience it, so it’s more for someone else’s sake.

I do kinda want to be a fossil though
 
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SuicideBoys93

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I'd rather be cremated. I've looked into the ideas of where people will mix their ashes with a tree being planted. Idk the decomposition breakdown in the coffin doesn't appeal to me. It's not that I'd be around to care, but it's something I'll attempt to avoid.
 
faust

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I don't want funerals, I'd rather be cremated or not found at all.
Just imagining how expensive it may be, during and after this corona mess that would be a strong hit.
 
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Darkhaven

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I would consider that an insult if i could actually feel anything after death....
 
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Green Destiny

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My family will probably have one for me. If anything what I wan't most is to be cremated when I die, not to rot in the ground in a casket. Besides that it's their choice.
 
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selfhater

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NO. omg i think about this alot that i don’t want my body to be found even
 
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NeverMatteredAnyway

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Whats it like to be cared about? Whats it like to have a family?
 
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PoisonedJuliet

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I’ve actually thought about this a lot. I forgot where I first heard this but I’ve always wanted to have a funeral for myself while I’m still alive but going to die soon. It would be a final goodbye to everyone. It might sound a little crazy but I’ve always liked the idea. Of course, if I ctb then that wouldn’t happen.
 
NeverMatteredAnyway

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I’ve actually thought about this a lot. I forgot where I first heard this but I’ve always wanted to have a funeral for myself while I’m still alive but going to die soon. It would be a final goodbye to everyone. It might sound a little crazy but I’ve always liked the idea. Of course, if I ctb then that wouldn’t happen.
You could just call it a party
 
PoisonedJuliet

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You could just call it a party
The invitation would say, “You’re invited to Juliet’s Last Goodbye party. Please bring all her favorite foods and no need for gifts. She won’t be needing them anytime soon... or at all. Actually, be prepared to take something home to get your portion of the will beforehand. The night will end with her drinking her “special drink” *cough cough sn* then everyone’s allowed to go home ;)”
 
mediocre

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I don’t want a funeral not because I don’t think people will come but because I don’t want my body to decompose in the ground and be eaten by bugs. Better to be cremated and get it over with quick. I wouldn’t want a funeral anyway I am very private and don’t want people looking at my body or any pictures of me...
 
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BPDbitch

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I don’t want a funeral not because I don’t think people will come but because I don’t want my body to decompose in the ground and be eaten by bugs.
I also want to be cremated but my family have had funerals for people being cremated and I wouldn’t want that
 
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I also want to be cremated but my family have had funerals for people being cremated and I wouldn’t want that
I think that’s why it’s important to make it clear to your family you don’t want a funeral under any circumstance. Some families don’t listen and I think that’s quite selfish...
 
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Goldfinch

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I’m not sure I do. There would probably be less than 10 people there lmao.

(wasn’t sure whether to put this in SD or Off Topic, feel free to move if this is the wrong board)
I guess it might make things easier for anyone who's still around but I just want to be at peace. I don't like the idea of it being a big deal though , feels weirdly ironic
 
avoid_slow_death

avoid_slow_death

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Depends. If I ultimately take my own life, want to be thrown away like the piece of trash I am.
 
enjolras

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No ceremony. I don’t like pathos. “A wise man leaves without making any noise”. I wish to go like a dead tree, in calmness.
There’s the idea of the mourning to mimic closely how the deceased was (isolated). Those concerned, very few, will connect better with the memories

In objectivity, being turned into humus, being turned into hummus, would have been my choice to “give back” , but N/A (not legalised). So cremation, to monopolise less earthly space

 
NeverMatteredAnyway

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The invitation would say, “You’re invited to Juliet’s Last Goodbye party. Please bring all her favorite foods and no need for gifts. She won’t be needing them anytime soon... or at all. Actually, be prepared to take something home to get your portion of the will beforehand. The night will end with her drinking her “special drink” *cough cough sn* then everyone’s allowed to go home ;)”
Lol
No ceremony. I don’t like pathos. “A wise man leaves without making any noise”. I wish to go like a dead tree, in calmness.
There’s the idea of the mourning to mimic closely how the deceased was (isolated). Those concerned, very few, will connect better with the memories

In objectivity, being turned into humus, being turned into hummus, would have been my choice to “give back” , but N/A (not legalised). So cremation, to monopolise less earthly space

THAT, may be the coolest thing Ive ever seen.
 
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NeverMatteredAnyway

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Hope it can bring you some every day relief. Don’t drown yourself into joyfulness just yet.



Tell your friends
LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL omg thank you, thank you, thank you for those!
 
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enjolras

enjolras

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Glad if it has therapeutic effect ! This artist has a magical competency to capture the best little moments and reveal them as gems. Nothing a heartless millionnaire could spot
 
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