Did you ever get over it? I thought I had but it came rushing back.
I couldn’t imagine her being with someone else. Weirdest thing is that we only talked once, but she hardly said a word due to shyness. All the other times the communication was through looks and body language. My mind has projected so much onto her because I never really knew her. My mind torments me over a fantasy, a what-if.
That question wouldn’t go over well. Better to ask if they’re depressed. About the roots thing. I think I figured she’d want kids if we became serious, and I can’t have kids because I’m a broken person.
Probably. In that case I'm willing to explain myself. I'd say that I am suicidal, and that I don't see any point for myself to get to know someone who isn't because we would have conflicting views on life. It's like a junk food enthusiast meeting a health freak. That, I think, wouldn't go well. So I'm starting with the question that will determine if we are compatible on this basic level. Whether or not we see our lives as something generally worth experiencing, and if we plan to take our lives at some point. This question is the most important for me, because the vast majority of people would answer it differently from me.
Oh no. I can’t bear feeling this regret that long. It’s only been around 3 yrs since I last saw her. I’ve tried to find her through dating apps. I never got her name so I can’t look her up.
You’ll turn off every woman if you ask that. This would fall under common sense.
How do you cope? Are you physically attractive but fucked up mentally?
What happened after you explained?
I don’t cope very well. The most I do is complain a lot about it in places like here or I get openly hostile to people I know who are in relationships for the catharsis.
I used to cope by reading a lot. Now I can’t because ocd has ruined that. I don’t cope well either. Strangely ctb is harder when I’m like this. It’s only when I feel numb when dying seems fine.I don’t cope very well. The most I do is complain a lot about it in places like here or I get openly hostile to people I know who are in relationships for the catharsis.
I personally don’t think I am very physically attractive (even though the woman I met here told me I was to her) and even if I am, I feel there is an internal ugliness within me that makes my below average to average looks not worth it.
That internal feeling is insecurity.I don’t cope very well. The most I do is complain a lot about it in places like here or I get openly hostile to people I know who are in relationships for the catharsis.
I personally don’t think I am very physically attractive (even though the woman I met here told me I was to her) and even if I am, I feel there is an internal ugliness within me that makes my below average to average looks not worth it.
That’s pretty understandable. Though I usually want to CTB more when I’m explicitly ruminating on the potential relationships I lost rather than when I’m being numb...
I definitely have a lot of that inside me, though I have concrete proof for most of my fears too.
There’s a few others for me too. Luckily I know their names lol. One has ignored me for years on social media but responded happily earlier this year, but the conversation didn’t last and she’s back to ignoring me. She has a bf so I imagine that’s why.
Maybe. I don't like the idea of decieving (omitting important information) people to get them hooked, although I can clearly see some of the benefits here. And it's not like I'm in a position to look for sex/reproduction/life partners anyway. I could use some gaming/talking partners though. I have a good PC, lots of free time, and willingness to play co-op games.
I’m too honest in regard to my issues since they’d find out eventually, but you shouldn’t look for the female equivalent of yourself.
Why don’t you try? I would kill to have another chance again.
I could do with males too, but I'm not a big fan of male voices.
That’s how I felt when I didn’t go for that girl a few years ago. That feeling lasted up until recently and I don’t know how to deal with the regret. It’s torturing me.
So you’ve hated every decision to let them go?
At least I’m not alone in this. Still awful to experience though
