Any other guy become hesitant about ctb when thinking of a woman you had a chance to have sex with or future chances you could have?

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If I had a libido no way in hell I would ctb. Not now anyway..

I'd be shooting pool every night, flirting with all the hot waitresses dating consistently and kicking ass financially.. spreading good vibes and helping as many people as I could.. like I used to...

instead, I spend all my money and all my time , working on my health hoping someday I heal.. the good days aren't that good, and the bad days are downright dreadful.. what a waste the last 10 years have been
 
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I don't really care about having sex. It would be too much work trying to get in a relationship, when I can't relate to others, and all the various other problems I have, and I wouldn't be comfortable doing a hookup. Porn is enough for me for now. Maybe in the future.
 
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I’m confused by the tone/phrasing of this. Do you just mean this as in sex is something you will miss when you ctb? Because there’s plenty of good things in my life that I will miss out on when I ctb, sex being one of them I suppose, but all this suffering is not worth the odd moment of happiness I experience from time to time
 
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If I get the chance to get closer to basically any person it gives me hope not only for relationships but for my hole life. There is just something in me that says if there is one person that likes me I can't be as bad as I always think
 
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I just don’t like seeing women talked about as if they are objects. OUR mental health is often harmed by that view of us. It wasn’t you doing that so much as some of the rest of the thread and elsewhere on ss.
Knowing I will always be just an object, that my worth in life is determined only by how desirable I am to men is something that has destroyed me and so many others. It's all I wanted when I was younger, so I spent more time on that than actually doing something with my life. It's why I had an eating disorder that destroyed my teeth which now also makes me want to kill myself. I have to talk and laugh in a very particular way to hide the decay. It's why I starved myself and worked out excessively for years all just to destroy my body and feel empty in the end because being hot just isn't fulfilling even though I craved it because it's the only way for me to be recognized (i'm no professional with a career I love). At some point, you just want people to see you as a human being. I mean, us women crush on "ugly" men all the time because of their personality (at least I do), but men so rarely do the same. At some point, my looks will be gone entirely, which is all I ever had to begin with and I never genuinely had that. I'm a, have to wear makeup and spend 2-3 hours (among sooo many other things) to look hot and no one realizes the extent of it because I refuse to be seen without it. So even when men fall for me, I feel like a fraud because what attracted them to me isn't even real and I can't be around them all the time because I'm afraid of being found out so they always accuse me of being distant and pushing them away (which I do, but for that reason alone). I hate being a woman. It's such a cruel gender to be for far many reasons than this.

As for the OP, I understand what you mean. My suicidal thoughts went away after I started talking to this man I liked. Things started looking up, but then he fell off the face of the earth and I went right back into it. While I do suffer from mental illness, I still see the depression and wanting to kill myself as being very situational. Financial stress is another huge factor. So in a way, I'm someone who can be saved.. just not with words.
 
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For me my hesitation is that since everyone knows I have feelings for her she might get blamed if I were to CTB. I just don't know if I could do that to her as I love her even if she doesn't love me.
 
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Knowing I will always be just an object, that my worth in life is determined only by how desirable I am to men is something that has destroyed me and so many others. It's all I wanted when I was younger, so I spent more time on that than actually doing something with my life. It's why I had an eating disorder that destroyed my teeth which now also makes me want to kill myself. I have to talk and laugh in a very particular way to hide the decay. It's why I starved myself and worked out excessively for years all just to destroy my body and feel empty in the end because being hot just isn't fulfilling even though I craved it because it's the only way for me to be recognized (i'm no professional with a career I love). At some point, you just want people to see you as a human being. I mean, us women crush on "ugly" men all the time because of their personality (at least I do), but men so rarely do the same. At some point, my looks will be gone entirely, which is all I ever had to begin with and I never genuinely had that. I'm a, have to wear makeup and spend 2-3 hours (among sooo many other things) to look hot and no one realizes the extent of it because I refuse to be seen without it. So even when men fall for me, I feel like a fraud because what attracted them to me isn't even real and I can't be around them all the time because I'm afraid of being found out so they always accuse me of being distant and pushing them away (which I do, but for that reason alone). I hate being a woman. It's such a cruel gender to be for far many reasons than this.

As for the OP, I understand what you mean. My suicidal thoughts went away after I started talking to this man I liked. Things started looking up, but then he fell off the face of the earth and I went right back into it. While I do suffer from mental illness, I still see the depression and wanting to kill myself as being very situational. Financial stress is another huge factor. So in a way, I'm someone who can be saved.. just not with words.
You are not an object and your worth is not determined only by your physical appearance and society’s bullshit excess focus on that
 
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Can someone tell me what it means to "have a chance" with someone?

I was on a date with a guy one time and at the end he wanted me to go back to his apartment and I refused and he said "why won't you give me a chance" and I thought what the hell does that mean?
What I mean by it is the chance to go on a date or establish any sort of relationship.
 
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Not particularly relationships and sex, but just the thought of having friends makes me suicidal. I've been so lonely for so long, i get anxious and suicidal whenever a group of people my age pass me on the street. I feel like a freak, like i'm not good enough. I wonder if it's natural instinct to weed out any social outcast and mentally ill to benefit society as a whole.
Yes I'm sure this is some innate mostly, hopefully, subconscious thing. But I'm sure it's the reason
 
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I tried with some professionals and came to the conclusion that gay sex sucks, I definitely should have been born a woman
Maybe you're trans? Transitioning is a thing that helped me a lot. I was actually in a really good place before my stupid pain started, largely due to transitioning. It made my life worth living. I do believe that if I wasn't in constant physical agony I'd be very happy
 
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Why bother with sex, when you know no one out there can love you, it’s just insulting to think, that people can share all sorts of pleasant Moments, but I’m stuck on the brink of either running away, or hanging myself.
 
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Maybe you're trans? Transitioning is a thing that helped me a lot. I was actually in a really good place before my stupid pain started, largely due to transitioning. It made my life worth living. I do believe that if I wasn't in constant physical agony I'd be very happy
I already thought I was trans, but unfortunately I developed many male characteristics and I would not be an attractive woman, for many trans people that would not be a hindrance, but for me it is
 
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Man, I swear that part of me is so dead now. It's cruel af how things work, too- because now that I genuinely don't care if a supermodel wanted to fuck me, I always have chicks trying to flirt with me in public and in my inbox and shit. Just the other night I ghosted this girl because wtf would be the point of hanging out? I'd only make someone else miserable if they knew the true me, and sex has always been garbage to me unless there's a genuine connection with the other person.
 
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I already thought I was trans, but unfortunately I developed many male characteristics and I would not be an attractive woman, for many trans people that would not be a hindrance, but for me it is
Ngl I felt the same way pre transition, for a long time after I had came to terms with and accepted the fact that I am trans I resigned to keep it to myself because of the mental image I had of what I would look like. I was masculine as fuck, deep voice, full beard, real scruffy and all that. I was inspired to actually pursue my transition by seeing some before and after pictures of some trans women, I'm about a year and a half into transitioning and I honestly look great, and people gender me correctly consistently. And that is actually a big hinderance for a lot of trans people, it was for me. You're definitely not alone in that
 
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Ngl I felt the same way pre transition, for a long time after I had came to terms with and accepted the fact that I am trans I resigned to keep it to myself because of the mental image I had of what I would look like. I was masculine as fuck, deep voice, full beard, real scruffy and all that. I was inspired to actually pursue my transition by seeing some before and after pictures of some trans women, I'm about a year and a half into transitioning and I honestly look great, and people gender me correctly consistently. And that is actually a big hinderance for a lot of trans people, it was for me. You're definitely not alone in that
Whatever guys are thinking about transitioning don't take DHT blockers.. they're fucking poison and you're playing Russian roulette.. u could literally lose everything..

it's one thing to be depressed or even confused but when every emotion is sucked dry and even street drugs won't get you high it becomes apparent something in the endocrine system can easily break when u pharma fuck with it..
 
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Whatever guys are thinking about transitioning don't take DHT blockers.. they're fucking poison and you're playing Russian roulette.. u could literally lose everything..

it's one thing to be depressed or even confused but when every emotion is sucked dry and even street drugs won't get you high it becomes apparent something in the endocrine system can easily break when u pharma fuck with it..
Not on dht blockers. That's not something typically prescribed for hrt. Also hrt doesn't involve meds that get you high. But that is good to know, thanks
 
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Not on dht blockers. That's not something typically prescribed for hrt. Also hrt doesn't involve meds that get you high. But that is good to know, thanks
Ok cool.. I just heard that when guys want to transition or even children they use dht blockers... I think adding is way better than trying to block something your body is trying to do.

No.. I was saying if u crash from blocking.. you lose the ability to feel.. it's like a lobotomy.. even after u stop.. I'm in 4 forums for guys that have crashed.. it's hell
 
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Ok cool.. I just heard that when guys want to transition or even children they use dht blockers... I think adding is way better than trying to block something your body is trying to do.

No.. I was saying if u crash from blocking.. you lose the ability to feel.. it's like a lobotomy.. even after u stop.. I'm in 4 forums for guys that have crashed.. it's hell
What they do is give you estrogen in addition to a testosterone blocker, not a dht blocker. If you were to just take the t blocker without the e to replace the t in your body you'll encounter all sorts of issues, mental and physical. But that doesn't really happen, hrt is hormone *replacement* therapy. And unlike dht blockers, drugs like spironolactone aren't permanent, you start producing testosterone again if you stop taking it if you haven't had an orchiectomy

People taken dht blockers are probably not given them by a doctor. In places drugs like spironolactone and estradiol are hard to get and trans women can't get proper healthcare, I can see why a trans woman with no other options might use dht blockers because of the nature of dht blockers and its availability, but that's not a good idea as won't have the same effect
 
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What they do is give you estrogen in addition to a testosterone blocker, not a dht blocker. If you were to just take the t blocker without the e to replace the t in your body you'll encounter all sorts of issues, mental and physical. But that doesn't really happen, hrt is hormone *replacement* therapy. And unlike dht blockers, drugs like spironolactone aren't permanent, you start producing testosterone again if you stop taking it if you haven't had an orchiectomy

People taken dht blockers are probably not given them by a doctor. In places drugs like spironolactone and estradiol are hard to get and trans women can't get proper healthcare, I can see why a trans woman with no other options might use dht blockers because of the nature of dht blockers and its availability, but that's not a good idea as won't have the same effect
no the dht blocker is prescription.. it's called propecia and it's for hair loss.. also dutasteride which is stronger for prostate.. some use that for hairloss too.. that's what crushed me..
What drug are u taking to block testosterone? would like to check it out
. Thanks
 
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no the dht blocker is prescription.. it's called propecia and it's for hair loss.. also dutasteride which is stronger for prostate.. some use that for hairloss too.. that's what crushed me..
What drug are u taking to block testosterone? would like to check it out
. Thanks
I take spironolactone as a t blocker and estradiol for estrogen. Been on them for about a year and a half. Feel free to pm me about anything related to that if you want
 
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How do you overcome attachments in order to make ctb easier? My thoughts, especially my attachments are like a constant whirlwind in my head. I can’t separate them from myself.
I'm still trying to figure that out for myself. I tend to self sabotage my romantic relationships though, because being cared for goes against the perception I have of myself that I'm completely unlovable.
 
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